“Excellence can be attained if you care more than others think is wise, risk more than others think is safe, dream more than others think is practical and expect more than others think is possible.”
Why do we so desperately pursue this intangible state? How can it be achieved? Be excellent in what and why not strive for perfection instead?
Many of us seek excellence; such a state gives guidelines to one’s behaviour, ethic, attitude, actions and personality. Excellence bear thin lines between being mediocre and the unattainable perfect. While many are quite happy in their comfort zones and look no further for self improvement (e.g.) excessively overweight person, others are expectedly stuck in the quagmire of perfection that drives us in a stress-induced state.
Mediocrity along with Perfection tends to frustrate and damage our rhythmic spirit. The spirit that seeks continuous improvement, one that stretches past or assumed best to new dimensions, one that considers something worthy of ourselves – when done excellent- and not faultless.
Seeking excellence frees the individual to soar on their own accord in areas of expertise. This is a great unique formula to follow; it takes one on a road that goes above and beyond the norm. However accepting when it’s excellent and needs no further -if not unnecessary- improvement. Care more, risk more, dream more, and expect more. How much bad can it do to your lifestyle, moreover the world? Try It!



Coming out of the closet
Coming out of the closet (Photo credit: Wikipedia)


Misc Tip Lend support to friends who are coming out of the closet. Gay people who are out have lower levels of stress, depression and anxiety.


If you know someone who is struggling to come out to friends, family and loved ones, help make the transition easier by offering your support. Research shows that lesbians, gays and bisexuals who are still in the closet have higher levels of stress, anxiety, depression and burnout than those who are out to family and friends. When someone comes out to you, it usually means that they want to have an open and honest relationship with you and they hope that you can accept them as they are. It is important to withhold judgment and remember that they are the same person they always were. Also, since it’s their information to share, it’s important to ask whether this is something that should be kept in confidence.




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Mind Tip Here’s a cozy way to reduce stress: Cuddle up to your partner. Holding hands, hugging and other caring touches help keep us calm and happy.

Team up to fight stress. Spending time holding one another can help melt away tension. Research shows that when couples took time to show physical affection by way of hand-holding, hugging and cuddling, it boosted their levels of the love hormone oxytocin and reduced levels of alpha amylase, a stress marker.

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It is not unusual in many societies throughout east Africa for men to display their friendship for one another by holding hands in public. Two soldiers on patrol in the streets of Bujumbura, Burundi nonchalantly express their affection for one another. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

For men, it also resulted in lower blood pressure, which may be especially important in protecting the heart from stress. Couples were instructed to hold one another for 30 minutes three times a week for four weeks. Snuggle up against your partner while watching TV on the couch or in bed before going to sleep. In addition, a simple hand-squeeze or hug when your loved one is feeling stressed can help them — and you — feel better.


Shortcut to Happiness
Shortcut to Happiness (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Body Tip In a relationship rut? Pack your bags! Couples that travel together have better relationships — and sex — than those who don’t.

Feel like your relationship could use a little boost? Take a trip together. A new survey suggests that couples who travel together not only have better relationships, they also have better sex. What’s more, according to the 1,100 adults surveyed, taking a trip can actually spark togetherness and romance. The reason: It takes you out of your day-to-day routine and allows you to spend more quality time together. When you’re lounging by a pool and your only thought is what drink to order next, job woes and family pressures melt away to allow you to focus on one another instead. According to Sonja Lyubomirsky, Ph.D., author of The How of Happiness, once something remains the same for long enough, we no longer notice or appreciate it. Taking yourself out of your routine makes you more appreciative of the people and environment around you.


Guy Winch keynote Day One
Guy Winch keynote Day One (Photo credit: mackcollier)

Mind Tip Instead of venting to others, discuss your gripe with those responsible. Handling complaints directly can help us feel empowered.

To feel happier and more in control of your life, handle grievances head-on. Even though we all have complaints on a regular basis, few of us actually resolve them effectively. Most of us vent to others instead of discussing the issue with those who have wronged us. According to psychologist Guy Winch, PhD, author of The Squeaky Wheel, we believe that taking our complaint to the source either is more trouble than it’s worth or will lead to an even worse outcome. This kind of belief system can make us feel powerless, frustrated and bad about ourselves. When we don’t stand up for what we believe, it teaches us that we won’t get what we want, so there’s no use trying. On the other hand, learning to assert yourself by handling complaints successfully can boost confidence and self-esteem.


Mind Tip Meditate your way to less stress and lower blood pressure. Research shows a regular practice reduces the risk of heart attacks and strokes.

While we may not be able to eliminate sources of stress in our lives, we can certainly change how we react. When we feel stressed, our muscles tense, our breathing quickens and our hearts race. Blood pressure climbs, and we tend to get angry or anxious. Learning to face emotional challenges calmly can decrease the likelihood that your health will suffer. A daily meditation practice is one way to take a bite out of stress. Research suggests that meditation — the act of sitting quietly and focusing serenely on the moment — can help lower blood pressure and reduce the risk of heart attack and stroke. All it takes is 15 to 20 minutes, four times a week. To learn how to adopt a meditation practice,


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Skill sari weaving in cheyyar. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
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Misc Tip Brighten your world by mastering a new skill. Exposing yourself to new things excites the brain, while accomplishment brings satisfaction.

To make your life shine a little brighter this year, master a new skill. Sign up for tennis lessons, study a foreign language, learn how to cha-cha, or pick up the guitar. Exposing yourself to new things activates the reward system of the brain. This excites the brain and generates new nerve cell connections so that it’s motivated to explore new territory. In other words, learning feeds off itself, making us even more curious. And once you’ve mastered that new skill, you’ll reap an even greater reward with the sense of fulfillment and accomplishment it brings.


Tips for Heart Health and Heart Disease Prevention
Tips for Heart Health and Heart Disease Prevention (Photo credit: Infographix)

Mind Tip To reduce your risk of dementia, focus on your heart. Minimizing your risk factors for heart disease will also benefit your brain.

You walk into a room and wonder why you’re there. You can’t remember your neighbor’s name. You lose your train of thought. Mental hiccups like these become more frequent as we get older, but senility is not an inevitable part of aging. Research shows that the same risk factors for heart disease — high cholesterol, hypertension, diabetes and obesity — are also the ones that increase the likelihood of developing dementia, like Alzheimer’s disease. Knowing your numbers and keeping them in check through a heart-healthy lifestyle may be your best protection against mental decline. A daily exercise routine can lower blood pressure, improve cholesterol, and help keep blood sugar levels stable. A heart-healthy, Mediterranean-style diet can do the same. If you have poorly controlled blood pressure, diabetes or cholesterol, talk to your doctor about the best treatment plan for you. Make sure it always includes healthful lifestyle changes.

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Main health effects of sleep deprivation (See Wikipedia:Sleep deprivation). Model: Mikael Häggström. To discuss image, please see Template talk:Häggström diagrams (Photo credit: Wikipedia)


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Mind Tip Nervous about an upcoming event? Sleep on it. Too little shut-eye can elevate anxiety levels in people who are already worried.




If you’re nervous about an upcoming presentation or work project, pulling an all-nighter is not the way to succeed. Instead, put your worries to rest by getting a good night’s sleep. Research shows that sleep deprivation can ramp up anxiety levels in people who are already feeling fraught — and people who are prone to anxiety are especially vulnerable. Of course, the catch-22 is that anxiety tends to keep us up at night, whether or not we want to be awake . If you have trouble putting aside your stress before you go to bed, consider theCleveland Clinic Wellness GO! to Sleep program. The six-week online program, developed by sleep experts at the Cleveland Clinic, can teach you how to put your mind at ease so you fall asleep and stay asleep, night after night. In addition, the Cleveland Clinic Wellness Institute is researching the effectiveness of online-based sleep programs and looking for participants. Find out how to take part in the study.



Body Tip Take the weight off to keep your mind sharp. People who are obese in midlife experience quicker mental decline as they age.

Maintain a healthy weight to keep your mind young. When it comes to brain health, there’s no such thing as being fat and fit, say researchers. A new study in the journal Neurology shows that people who are obese in midlife experience faster mental decline as they age. This builds on previous research that shows obesity is a risk factor for dementia. Those who are especially at risk for memory problems are those who suffer from obesity and other heart disease risk factors, like high blood pressure, cholesterol or blood sugar. However, the study found that even so-called healthy obese people displayed worse brain function than normal as they aged. To keep your mind — and your body — fit, keep extra pounds off. Eat sensibly and exercise daily.